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TFMR Support Sanctuary
Still a mother. Still a parent. Always.
The Sanctuary is where parents who've made the most impossible choice ever REMEMBER who we are. |
- What: Space for healing in grief & the connections with your baby you crave as a TFMR parent
- Cost: $45/month, cancel anytime
- Support: Two expert facilitators, Sabrina Fletcher & Kate Carson (TFMR moms themselves), have walked the path through TFMR and know what actually helps
- Where: OFF social media, password protected space & community forum, live groups on encrypted video
The TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY
A place to remember: your parenting didn't end. It transformed. You are still a mother, still a parent, through an impossible decision.
You are still carrying your baby forward through memory, through love, through the stories you tell and the community you build. The Sanctuary exists to hold all parts of you, all parts of your parenting & grief.
Why this namesake?
Why the TFMR Support 💫Sanctuary💫?
A feeling of Sanctuary is what Sabrina Fletcher & Kate Carson bring into everything grief and ritual care - body, mind & spirit.
Calming, centered, authentic 💜
Coming into the Sanctuary is like coming in from the cold, busy street, (where people say "wait, what's TFMR?") and we wrap you in a blanket & hand you tea and you feel it:
A gentle conversation happening over in a candle-filled corner, two moms sharing their stories about their babies and love for them.
Soft laughter drifts out from another semi-closed room, from a group that just moved a heavy bit of grief through, through, through.
You see another person placing flower tenderly on a group altar, tiny & eternally important memories of babies and our families mix together into a kaleidoscope of connections.
And we nod and say to you, "Yes, us too." Tears & joy & the intensity of our love for our babies mix together and you feel it: homecoming. A true sanctuary for TFMR families.
You are still carrying your baby forward through memory, through love, through the stories you tell and the community you build. The Sanctuary exists to hold all parts of you, all parts of your parenting & grief.
Why this namesake?
Why the TFMR Support 💫Sanctuary💫?
A feeling of Sanctuary is what Sabrina Fletcher & Kate Carson bring into everything grief and ritual care - body, mind & spirit.
Calming, centered, authentic 💜
Coming into the Sanctuary is like coming in from the cold, busy street, (where people say "wait, what's TFMR?") and we wrap you in a blanket & hand you tea and you feel it:
A gentle conversation happening over in a candle-filled corner, two moms sharing their stories about their babies and love for them.
Soft laughter drifts out from another semi-closed room, from a group that just moved a heavy bit of grief through, through, through.
You see another person placing flower tenderly on a group altar, tiny & eternally important memories of babies and our families mix together into a kaleidoscope of connections.
And we nod and say to you, "Yes, us too." Tears & joy & the intensity of our love for our babies mix together and you feel it: homecoming. A true sanctuary for TFMR families.
The only pregnancy loss support
membership created SPECIFICALLY FOR
parents like you who had to make the hardest choice
What past members of our TFMR groups have to say:
"It is so powerful to connect and share our stories with other women who've experienced the same thing.
Having a sacred space to share our stories, our grief. It was so beautiful to witness others grow, heal and grieve and to see their processes reflected in mine.
Being seen and understood are crucial to our humanity, especially at times like these.
Having community is so important. Our Society is greatly lacking spaces like these.
If sharing our grief became normalized in our world, we would be living in a much more beautiful world. One that is rich on so many levels."
-Andie, TFMR mom
Having a sacred space to share our stories, our grief. It was so beautiful to witness others grow, heal and grieve and to see their processes reflected in mine.
Being seen and understood are crucial to our humanity, especially at times like these.
Having community is so important. Our Society is greatly lacking spaces like these.
If sharing our grief became normalized in our world, we would be living in a much more beautiful world. One that is rich on so many levels."
-Andie, TFMR mom
In the Sanctuary you come in not knowing if you'll survive this.
You will find you are a GOOD parent. And that good parents sometimes have to make the hardest choice love will ever ask.
You've searched everywhere for grief support that truly gets TFMR (TFMR = termination for medical reasons)
Maybe you've joined baby loss groups where people don't understand your experience...or worse, judge your choice.
You deserve support without having to defend your loving decision.
That's exactly why we created this space - just for parents like you
Because even the "best" grief spaces...kind ones...loving ones... well, even there, with the best of intentions, these spaces drop TFMR parents through the cracks.
Because we've been asked to carry BOTH. The grief AND the choice. The love AND the decision. The baby AND the shame the world keeps heaping on us.
General baby loss spaces hold the grief. The Sanctuary holds the whole impossible thing.
A place where EVERYTHING is specific to the
unique tough feelings of terminating a wanted pregnancy
“People going through loss don’t need easy answers; they need safe places to help them navigate everything they are going through."
-Jennifer Dukes Lee
The TFMR Support Sanctuary is finally a place where you can:
- Bring your WHOLE story, guilt and longing and fear and joy and "I think I see signs from my baby, am I crazy?", ALL welcome here
- Share the push-pull of wanting to move forward AND bringing baby's memory into your life
- Be TTC or pregnant again without having to explain how your past TFMR is affecting your present moment, because OF COURSE it is
- Say or write or share your baby's name without watching someone flinch
- Talk about the whole impossible thing, not just the palatable parts
A place where you don’t have to explain yourself and your loving, heartbreaking choice...
Inside the TFMR Support Sanctuary:
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Monthly LIVE sessions with both experts |
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Live sessions with Kate Carson, baby loss coach
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Live sessions with Sabrina Fletcher, pregnancy loss doula
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About the LIVE sessions: |
LIVE SESSIONS (one with Sabrina, one with Kate) : Connecting Circle ***1st Thursday of the month: 7pm EASTERN*** Feeling & Healing Circle ***3rd Wednesday of the month at 11am EASTERN***
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REPLAYS always available if you can't come live
(& you decide your level of comfort
- camera on or off, change your name on Zoom, type in the chat or speak or only listen, all welcome)
(& you decide your level of comfort
- camera on or off, change your name on Zoom, type in the chat or speak or only listen, all welcome)
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Your PRIVATE Community Forum (our custom-built, password protected space) |
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About the Community Forum: |
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Self-paced TFMR grief courses |
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About the mini-courses: |
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100% virtual with a personal login (watch/download from any device)
What you need is to remember who you are: You are part of an ancient line of mothers who have loved through the impossible.
They loved through heartbreaking choices. They held each other, remembered babies, honored sacrifices made. These mothers are the reason we are here today.
Now we continue to hold each other. This is the Sanctuary.
Yes! I want in:
$55/month
Grieving in a society that doesn't understand:
Society tells you to "just move on" from grief.
We call B.S. on that...
The "stuff-it-down" and "move on" approach did NOT work for us
You're here, looking for another way too:
A heart-based, human way.
Here's your permission to grieve however you need to.
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Here this looks like grieving OUR way
Healing through nature, art, ritual, and in community.
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"She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts.”
- George Eliot
- George Eliot
We've been where you are, and know how hard it is:
Waking up, the grief hitting you like a semi-truck, all over again.
Searching everywhere (Google or Reddit or Instagram AGAIN), still not finding what you need.
Finding baby loss groups where people judge your choice or say, "I could never do that." Then looking for help in a pro-abortion space and being told it was "JUST a clump of cells." Then YOU feel wrong or too much for having a need for support...
You're not broken or "doing it wrong." You just need people who truly understand.
Searching everywhere (Google or Reddit or Instagram AGAIN), still not finding what you need.
Finding baby loss groups where people judge your choice or say, "I could never do that." Then looking for help in a pro-abortion space and being told it was "JUST a clump of cells." Then YOU feel wrong or too much for having a need for support...
You're not broken or "doing it wrong." You just need people who truly understand.
Who this pregnancy loss support membership is for:
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A special note if you are TTC (trying to conceive) or pregnant again after TFMR:
TTC or pregnant-again parents inside the Sanctuary (& in other grief circles Sabrina and Kate have run) feel the most supported they've ever felt in their entire fertility journey. A place where your fears are FINALLY not brushed off by a medical professional saying "Well, just stay positive, you are pregnant! Focus on that!" - AS IF you haven't already tried the "push it down and plaster a smile on" 'method' yourself.
And we'll be deeply honest here- YES it can be hard to show up to a grief call instead of spending another hour researching the best folic acid supplement for the MTHFR gene, but those that do show up find a sigh of relief when another member says their baby's name (finally, because Aunt Susan looks like she's going to poop herself every time you say your baby's name around her).
Parents who are pregnant again FINALLY have a place to mention how the current testing is bringing up guilt and what ifs from the TFMR pregnancy, and we hold that together, gently and appropriately.
Bottom line, YOU ARE WELCOME, with your entire TFMR-fertility-loss-trying again-pregnant-or-want-to-be-also-have-living-kids-or-no-kids story here.
What brings us all together is the horrific loss of a baby/babies through termination for medical causes.
More questions? Just ask - we'll help you figure out if this fits for you.
Use the chat here on the bottom right & we'll get back to you through email ----->
TTC or pregnant-again parents inside the Sanctuary (& in other grief circles Sabrina and Kate have run) feel the most supported they've ever felt in their entire fertility journey. A place where your fears are FINALLY not brushed off by a medical professional saying "Well, just stay positive, you are pregnant! Focus on that!" - AS IF you haven't already tried the "push it down and plaster a smile on" 'method' yourself.
And we'll be deeply honest here- YES it can be hard to show up to a grief call instead of spending another hour researching the best folic acid supplement for the MTHFR gene, but those that do show up find a sigh of relief when another member says their baby's name (finally, because Aunt Susan looks like she's going to poop herself every time you say your baby's name around her).
Parents who are pregnant again FINALLY have a place to mention how the current testing is bringing up guilt and what ifs from the TFMR pregnancy, and we hold that together, gently and appropriately.
Bottom line, YOU ARE WELCOME, with your entire TFMR-fertility-loss-trying again-pregnant-or-want-to-be-also-have-living-kids-or-no-kids story here.
What brings us all together is the horrific loss of a baby/babies through termination for medical causes.
More questions? Just ask - we'll help you figure out if this fits for you.
Use the chat here on the bottom right & we'll get back to you through email ----->
Sabrina
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We'd love to have you join us. Kate and I are re-opening the Sanctuary together - combining our expertise to create the most comprehensive TFMR support space that exists. Beyond a membership - you're joining a movement to end TFMR isolation forever. |
Kate
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Yes! This sounds like the support space for me:
What others say about working
with Sabrina & Kate:
"Sabrina's sessions and work have really helped me in that she is so good at creating and holding space for all aspects of the TFMR experience.
From personal experience, it is often very difficult to do that for ourselves and I have found it so necessary to have that help in order to tackle some of my bigger hurdles in grief and processing my loss. I really appreciate that Sabrina does this work and helps us along our own path in healing."
From personal experience, it is often very difficult to do that for ourselves and I have found it so necessary to have that help in order to tackle some of my bigger hurdles in grief and processing my loss. I really appreciate that Sabrina does this work and helps us along our own path in healing."
-Meggi
"I cannot imagine going through this experience without your impact, Kate.
I look for your comments and find comfort in them.
And I’m learning from you on how to support other mamas. Thank you.”
I look for your comments and find comfort in them.
And I’m learning from you on how to support other mamas. Thank you.”
- Lori
"Sabrina has been a gentle and empathetic support to me.
She's a great listener who acknowledged my past pregnancy traumas and pregnancy after loss fears with kindness and compassion.
She helped me feel as though I wasn't alone.”
She's a great listener who acknowledged my past pregnancy traumas and pregnancy after loss fears with kindness and compassion.
She helped me feel as though I wasn't alone.”
- Amanda
"It's so valuable to have someone who understands this pain on a personal level hold space, being able to talk about my losses with someone who really gets it.”
- Joanne
Each month you receive:
✔ Monthly live sessions with both grief experts
✔Access to the Sanctuary resources
✔ PRIVATE TFMR Sanctuary Forum, (our own, custom coded platform -seriously, Sabrina has coded it for us)
$55 USD
(Monthly access - cancel anytime)
(Monthly access - cancel anytime)
Not sure? Join us risk-free with a 30-day money back guarantee. |
Your TFMR support team
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Kate and Sabrina here, by your side.
You're not alone in this - whether you want to connect with the community or heal privately at your own pace.
We created this space so you'd have somewhere safe to land.
We've both been through TFMR, and have supported hundreds of TFMR families through the grief and heartbreak.
You're not alone in this - whether you want to connect with the community or heal privately at your own pace.
We created this space so you'd have somewhere safe to land.
We've both been through TFMR, and have supported hundreds of TFMR families through the grief and heartbreak.
How we support you within the Sanctuary:
Community support Get answers from other TFMR parents + both facilitators |
Direct access Email us anytime, we respond within 48 hours |
1:1 option upgrade available Want more personal support? We offer individual sessions too |
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Meet the co-foundersMeet Your Co-Founders Sabrina Fletcher - TFMR Bereavement Doula who went through her own TFMR in 2018. Specializes in trauma processing and emotional healing. Kate Carson - Baby Loss Coach. Abortion baby loss in her 3rd trimester. Specializes in somatic healing and body-based recovery after pregnancy loss. Together, we bring comprehensive support for your healing journey. |
Who this membership is for
This is for you if:
- Want to say your baby's name somewhere safe
- People have stopped asking how you're doing but you know you still need help holding this
- You are TTC or pregnant again and carrying both grief and hope at the same time
- You are days, months or even years out and feel like nobody gets it
This membership is *not* for you if...
The Sanctuary may *not* be for you if:
- You're still in the decision-making phase. If this is you, you belong on a free decision support call first, and we'll be here when you're ready
- You're looking for one-on-one clinical therapy or psychiatric support - this isn't that, and that's okay
- You're not ready to be in community with other TFMR parents yet. That's also okay, the timing has to be right for you
- You can't offer non-judgment for all TFMR decisions. If that's not something you feel you can do for other members, this isn't the right fit
“When a child dies, you bury the child in your heart.”
~ Korean Proverb
Ready to join the Sanctuary? Here's everything that is included:
For $45/month:
- Monthly live sessions with both experts
- Private community forum
- Self-paced courses & healing resources
- Cancel anytime
FAQs
Can I stay anonymous?
Yes, you can use any name you want in the community. You can post as "anonymous." You can leave your Zoom video off/change your Zoom name or just watch the replays.
What if I can't attend the live sessions?
All sessions are recorded, you can watch anytime if you can't make the live time slots. If there is interest we can also have questions/stories submitted beforehand and we'll share them/answer them in the live sessions.
Can I cancel if it's not right for me?
Yes, cancel anytime. And you get a 30-day money back guarantee.
Is this just for recent losses?
No, whether your loss was weeks or years ago, you are welcome and you belong here.
Do I have to participate in the community?
Not at all. You can use all the resources privately.
And we actually consider reading the forum, listening to group call replays, joining with video off and listening, AS participating in the community. Being a sacred witness is a KEY part of community, community is not always loud and front and center, community can be the quiet, constant net as well.
And we actually consider reading the forum, listening to group call replays, joining with video off and listening, AS participating in the community. Being a sacred witness is a KEY part of community, community is not always loud and front and center, community can be the quiet, constant net as well.
Yes I want to join:
Join the Sanctuary for $55 USD/month
Your safe corner of the internet where we've got your back.
Resources for sleepless nights and tools for the hard days.
Community to remind you:
You are not broken. You are not alone. You are not the first mother to survive the unsurvivable. You are the motherline continuing.
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I feel like I now, finally after so many years, have a community and friends who understand me, see me and see my children I have lost. -Carolina, member of one of our TFMR groups |