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After a termination of a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons, there is the real experience of being excluded from healing spaces. You may have been unwelcome even in your own faith tradition group - a place that could have afforded you the much needed community support that a "regular" stillbirth parent receives. You may even have been misunderstood in your secular communities and families of origin, or worse forced to keep it all a secret so as to not lose this support you desperately need. No matter anyone else's opinion on the matter, you deserve support during and after this type of baby loss.
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This sacred TFMR grief circle is run by me, Sabrina, The TFMR Pregnancy Loss Doula
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💜 Twice monthly LIVE meeting circles (valued at $1000) These sacred circles will be held on Zoom. Due to the confidential nature of these circles, the circle will be live and unrecorded (although I can send you the basic exercises we do if you miss a part of or a whole session.) In this space, we will gather to look deeply at and hold each other through different subjects and aspects of the grief of this type of baby loss. |
💜A private Whatsapp group (valued at $100/month) Where we can meet and share at any time, day or night, as we go through the circle ceremonies together. I have some special surprises planned for the group which will include energy healing, tarot pulls and guided meditations. These gentle yet deep practices are great supplements alongside hard grief work. They can give a moment to rest and restore our exhausted bodies and minds. |
💜1-on-1 private support (valued at $199/month) You get written and/or voice messages with me, your pregnancy loss doula, during the course of the program. This kind of messenger support gives you another layer of support beyond the group. A private place to be heard and seen in your grief. And your 1-on-1 support starts as soon as you enroll. Enroll early and your extra 1-on-1 support starts now. |
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💫 Death takes more than a life, how grief destroys our identity and how to begin to rebuild - The spiritual and philosophical identity shift
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💫 A final decision - Peace and death, death and peace and our unique values around suffering
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💫 Divine feminine energy and the womb wound - How our collective history, stories, myths and tales inform our grief. And the wisdom and validation we can glean from them
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💫 The womb holder as decider and keeper of death and life - Reclaim your innate power
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💫 Family and partner dynamics - why aren't you grieving like I am?
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💫 Other children, other babies - dealing with the the tough emotions of pregnancy jealousy, living sibling grief, pregnancy after loss
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What others are saying:"I AM a mother." “My biggest takeaway from being in Ascend is that what I am feeling is okay.
And even if that changes tomorrow, that is okay too. TFMR is the hardest "decision" a mother could ever make. And that I AM a mother. And nothing can change that." -Maria"Really excellent to have a dedicated and scheduled time to do grief work." “It has been incredibly helpful to be a part of a community and have carved out time to grieve. Before I joined I felt so much loneliness and isolation. I had difficulty knowing how/when to talk about the loss. Waves of grief that would last days and make it hard to work/socialize.
The live circles are the most helpful. It is really excellent to have a dedicated and scheduled time to do grief work, in community with others. The live circles often motivate me to do other work in between, as well, which has been helpful. It is also great to have Sabrina as a resource to access when a moment of grief or desire to process comes up. I have so much more validation of my grief and experience of trauma in losing my baby. Even though it was somewhat subconscious before, I realize now that I felt that enough time had passed for me to start feeling better and that my grief wasn't fully valid. I also think I was trying to avoid calling my experience traumatic because of recognition of other types of traumas people experience and feeling this was not big enough. Joining Ascend has helped me see my grief is valid and therefore given me space to feel it, engage with it and be more authentic with how I am doing and what I need. That has been invaluable. I’ve learned that we carry our grief and our loss with us along our journey of life, and that is okay.” -Maeve"Doing this work with OTHERS has been the most helpful part." “I am so glad that I joined the Ascend grief circle. I didn't realize how much I needed this space and how helpful it could be until joining. I feel so much less alone and less afraid of my grief.
I was struggling to identify, acknowledge and experience my grief but doing this work with others has been the most helpful part regardless of what we are doing. I don't think I would get the same benefit doing it one-on-one. I am so grateful that Sabrina has created this safe and beautiful group of women to work through our grief together. I have learned so much about myself from listening to the other group members; it is a truly special space. I like the mix of more guided/directed activities and the open sharing. I think it helps to open and close the circle with a more structured activity like a meditation, energy work or journaling and then have some time to process that together. I also really enjoyed the stories that Sabrina would share and then incorporate into an art or journaling prompt. I was really surprised by how many of my challenges, thoughts, feelings etc. were mirrored in others regardless of our unique circumstances. I did not expect so many similarities across the group members. I also thought 2 hours would feel really long, but I find it going very fast and not wanting the group to end. I am less afraid of my grief and don't feel I have to hide from it and hide it from others so much. I'm learning to identify and understand the different layers of grief and how they may manifest in my own life, body and mind. My biggest takeaway is that I'm not alone. “ -Heidi |
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"There is something powerful about speaking with people who have been through it"
"A connection, a together-ness...I have made true friends there"
"Eternally grateful to have had this space where I can just talk, out loud, about the things nobody else in my life wants to listen to"
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Meet your Loss Doula,
Ritual Keeper and High Priestess |
A little more about me:
Hi, I'm Sabrina Fletcher, Loss Doula. Ever since I went through my own termination, alone, my husband relegated to the waiting area, I've been drawn to help people going through the TFMR experience. One way I can help is by being your Pregnancy Loss Doula. But with Covid, there is not much in-person hand holding during procedures allowed, and most people find me after they have gone through with their terminations. The postpartum period and beyond is when we still need much care and help. With or without a baby on this plane, we are still postpartum parents. It is still a rite of passage that deserves to be marked and celebrated and honored. As a loss doula, I combine my skills as a Reiki teacher, intuitive healer, tarot reader, contemplative educator and training as a baby loss family advisor into a holistic bundle of emotional and spiritual care. For you, the grieving mumma, the grieving papa. |