Intimate, closed grief support group
to take you from isolating loss to feeling held, seen and supported
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You know how isolating TFMR can feel. Other people don't always understand this type of loss - even people who love you. Here, you don't have to explain yourself. Everyone gets it. |
This sacred TFMR grief circle is run by me, Sabrina, The TFMR Pregnancy Loss Doula
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You deserve a place where you can be taken care of, surrounded by other parents lifting you up, holding you up
This type of loss can feel sooo isolating... that's why I created:
Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
Support for TFMR parents dealing with this heartbreaking (and often misunderstood) baby loss
Support for TFMR parents dealing with this heartbreaking (and often misunderstood) baby loss
Groups starting Sep. 2025
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$222 (4 monthly payments)
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$799 (one time payment)
INTERESTED? APPLY TO JOIN:
$222 (4 monthly payments)
or
$799 (one time payment)
INTERESTED? APPLY TO JOIN:
Apply through the button above
“The healing power of even the most microscopic exchange with someone who knows in a flash precisely what you’re talking about because she experienced that thing too cannot be overestimated.”
-Cheryl Strayed
Ascend is the grief circle for you if:
❣You want to share your story and your baby's story in a safe place
❣You want to feel held and be seen as the grieving parent you are
❣You are ready to have support in your grief with other TFMR families who get it
This grief circle is open to:
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Note:
If you have any doubts about whether this circle is right for you, apply and we'll talk in our "Circle Chat"
The Details:
Bi-weekly sharing circles
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Private support for 4 months
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Meeting times
WEDNESDAYS at 4pm Pacific Time/ 7pm Eastern Time
SUNDAYS at Noon Eastern Time/ 5:00pm London Time
(2 hours, every 2 weeks)
This program includes:
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💜LIVE Zoom circles Safe space to share and be held by other TFMR parents |
💜A private, 24/7 group chat 24/7 support between meetings |
💜1-on-1 private support Private support throughout the program |
In four months, you'll go from just getting through the day to feeling supported in your grief, all while bringing your sweet baby's memory with you:
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💫 Learn to handle triggers and anxiety
-through workshops and support in circles |
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💫 Build grief skills to help you cope
-through resources and practice in circles |
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💫 Connect with your baby's spirit and memory
-through guided meditations in circle |
“Grief is like living two lives...One where you pretend everything is all right and the other is where your heart silently screams in pain."
-Unknown
Ja'Nai shares her experience in Ascend:
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"I felt parts of my heart that I thought were cold...I could feel them again.
(Ascend) is truly a place where you can find community.
I found ways that I could take steps forward."
-Ja'Nai, TFMR mom
Amanda shares about her time in Ascend
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"I was searching for a community where I could talk to people without feeling judged. A safe space where I didn't have to explain myself."
-Amanda, TFMR mom
What others are saying:"I AM a mother." “My biggest takeaway from being in Ascend is that what I am feeling is okay.
And even if that changes tomorrow, that is okay too. TFMR is the hardest "decision" a mother could ever make. And that I AM a mother. And nothing can change that." -Maria"Really excellent to have a dedicated and scheduled time to do grief work." “It has been incredibly helpful to be a part of a community and have carved out time to grieve. Before I joined I felt so much loneliness and isolation. I had difficulty knowing how/when to talk about the loss. Waves of grief that would last days and make it hard to work/socialize.
The live circles are the most helpful. It is really excellent to have a dedicated and scheduled time to do grief work, in community with others. The live circles often motivate me to do other work in between, as well, which has been helpful. It is also great to have Sabrina as a resource to access when a moment of grief or desire to process comes up. I have so much more validation of my grief and experience of trauma in losing my baby. Even though it was somewhat subconscious before, I realize now that I felt that enough time had passed for me to start feeling better and that my grief wasn't fully valid. I also think I was trying to avoid calling my experience traumatic because of recognition of other types of traumas people experience and feeling this was not big enough. Joining Ascend has helped me see my grief is valid and therefore given me space to feel it, engage with it and be more authentic with how I am doing and what I need. That has been invaluable. I’ve learned that we carry our grief and our loss with us along our journey of life, and that is okay.” -Maeve"Doing this work with OTHERS has been the most helpful part." “I am so glad that I joined the Ascend grief circle. I didn't realize how much I needed this space and how helpful it could be until joining. I feel so much less alone and less afraid of my grief.
I was struggling to identify, acknowledge and experience my grief but doing this work with others has been the most helpful part regardless of what we are doing. I don't think I would get the same benefit doing it one-on-one. I am so grateful that Sabrina has created this safe and beautiful group of women to work through our grief together. I have learned so much about myself from listening to the other group members; it is a truly special space. I like the mix of more guided/directed activities and the open sharing. I think it helps to open and close the circle with a more structured activity like a meditation, energy work or journaling and then have some time to process that together. I also really enjoyed the stories that Sabrina would share and then incorporate into an art or journaling prompt. I was really surprised by how many of my challenges, thoughts, feelings etc. were mirrored in others regardless of our unique circumstances. I did not expect so many similarities across the group members. I also thought 2 hours would feel really long, but I find it going very fast and not wanting the group to end. I am less afraid of my grief and don't feel I have to hide from it and hide it from others so much. I'm learning to identify and understand the different layers of grief and how they may manifest in my own life, body and mind. My biggest takeaway is that I'm not alone. “ -Heidi |
My TFMR and why I created this grief circle
Termination for medical reasons is not uncommon feels so very uncommon since many people chose to keep the experience private, secret, locked behind closed doors.
It's an experience that is rarely, if ever, talked about.
When I went through my termination after a diagnosis of hydrops, cystic hygroma and other anomolies, I was the first person I'd ever known to end a wanted pregnancy. My experience felt so different from friends who'd had early abortions - not better or worse, just different.
We had planned and wanted this baby.
We named her Clara.
It's an experience that is rarely, if ever, talked about.
When I went through my termination after a diagnosis of hydrops, cystic hygroma and other anomolies, I was the first person I'd ever known to end a wanted pregnancy. My experience felt so different from friends who'd had early abortions - not better or worse, just different.
We had planned and wanted this baby.
We named her Clara.
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After my TFMR, I desperately needed to be around people who understood THIS specifically - terminating a WANTED pregnancy, making impossible medical decisions in just days.
I didn't feel safe in regular loss groups. I worried about whether leaders were allies, whether other members would say "I'd never..."
Would they actually understand?
If this story sounds familiar, this space is for you.
I created this circle because we deserve support that's pre-vetted and safe for TFMR baby loss grief.
A place where you are understood.
A group that really shows up for each other, in our darkest moments
Imagine waking up to messages of support back to you from a grief struggle you posted in the closed group chat when you couldn't sleep last night.
You feel seen and understood by the group, and you think back to what you've been learning in the circle. You make plans to try out a remembrance ritual one of the other members was sharing about.
You decide to try out a relationship communication skill/idea from one of the suggestions in the circle.
You know that the group has your back, no matter what.
I created this group so we can really show up for each other, suggest grief coping skills (sensitive to this particular baby loss), and see each other as the bereaved parents that we are.
Imagine waking up to messages of support back to you from a grief struggle you posted in the closed group chat when you couldn't sleep last night.
You feel seen and understood by the group, and you think back to what you've been learning in the circle. You make plans to try out a remembrance ritual one of the other members was sharing about.
You decide to try out a relationship communication skill/idea from one of the suggestions in the circle.
You know that the group has your back, no matter what.
I created this group so we can really show up for each other, suggest grief coping skills (sensitive to this particular baby loss), and see each other as the bereaved parents that we are.
"There is something powerful about speaking with people who have been through it"
"A connection, a together-ness...I have made true friends there"
"Eternally grateful to have had this space where I can just talk, out loud, about the things nobody else in my life wants to listen to"
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FAQ
WHAT IF I CAN'T MAKE ALL THE MEETINGS?
It's okay to miss a meeting or more, if you already have trips/commitments planned. We share a lot in between in the group chat too, and I can send you the journaling questions from the session if you miss and want them.
Is this confidential/PRIVATE?
Yes, our circles are NOT recorded, you can leave your camera on/off, you can "change" your name in Zoom to whatever you wish.
How many people are in each circle/group?
I cap each circle at 6 people, to keep the space intimate and warm.
What if I'm not ready to share yet?
In the circles, I never put you on the spot. You can share or not share, speak out or listen. I carefully watch the time and space and allow time for everyone.
AND joining comes with 1-on-1 access to me as your Pregnancy Loss Doula, so you can always send me your messages and questions privately. You can wait to speak up on a topic in our private space, which we will share over a texting and audio/voice messaging app called Whatsapp.
AND joining comes with 1-on-1 access to me as your Pregnancy Loss Doula, so you can always send me your messages and questions privately. You can wait to speak up on a topic in our private space, which we will share over a texting and audio/voice messaging app called Whatsapp.
HOW do I know this is right for me?
If you're asking this question, you probably already know.
You're here because you need support from people who truly understand TFMR.
This circle is right for you if:
You want to share your story in a safe space
You want to connect with other TFMR parents who get it
You're ready for support
Not sure? Apply anyway. We'll talk in your Circle Chat about where you are and whether this feels like the right fit for you right now.
You're here because you need support from people who truly understand TFMR.
This circle is right for you if:
You want to share your story in a safe space
You want to connect with other TFMR parents who get it
You're ready for support
Not sure? Apply anyway. We'll talk in your Circle Chat about where you are and whether this feels like the right fit for you right now.
I AM TTC / pregnant again, can I still join?
This is a really great question, and I would say YES, in a pregnancy after loss or while trying to conceive, working through blocks and fears and learning how to be with our grief is so important.
This is a gentle space, although we acknowledge the darkness and difficulties of grieving, just knowing you have a group and a community you can fall back on for emotional and spiritual support is priceless. Especially while navigating your fertility journey.
If you become pregnant during the program, you may find that this group is the only place you are ready to open up to about your early pregnancy. And that is a gift.
This is a gentle space, although we acknowledge the darkness and difficulties of grieving, just knowing you have a group and a community you can fall back on for emotional and spiritual support is priceless. Especially while navigating your fertility journey.
If you become pregnant during the program, you may find that this group is the only place you are ready to open up to about your early pregnancy. And that is a gift.
Meet your Loss Doula
and Ritual Keeper |
A little more about me:
Hi, I'm Sabrina Fletcher, your TFMR Loss Doula. Ever since I went through my own termination, alone, while my husband was relegated to the waiting area, I've been drawn to help people through the TFMR experience. I know that after TFMR, we're still postpartum parents. With or without a baby on this plane, this is still a rite of passage that deserves to be honored. I combine grief support with energy healing and ritual work to offer holistic care for you, the grieving parent. |
What others are saying about working with me:
Before I joined Ascend I was feeling isolated, even though I joined other online TFMR support groups.
Now I feel like I have something to look forward to, even though it's not the situation I had hoped for, I never imagined support throughout the years, and finally, here it is.
-Ja'Nai
Sabrina's work has been immensely helpful in navigating my grief. I read her posts, watch her videos and attend her live sessions.
Her compassionate, gentle and professional nature makes her the perfect TFMR doula.
Her recent live session not only provided me with much needed emotional support but also gave me a spiritual uplifting.
My son, my loss and my grief were acknowledged and validated by Sabrina. After the session I felt calmer and more at peace with my decision to TFMR. I am looking forward to everything that Sabrina does to help me navigate life without my baby.
Her compassionate, gentle and professional nature makes her the perfect TFMR doula.
Her recent live session not only provided me with much needed emotional support but also gave me a spiritual uplifting.
My son, my loss and my grief were acknowledged and validated by Sabrina. After the session I felt calmer and more at peace with my decision to TFMR. I am looking forward to everything that Sabrina does to help me navigate life without my baby.
-Pat
Sabrina's sessions and work have really helped me in that she is so good at creating and holding space for all aspects of the TFMR experience.
From personal experience, it is often very difficult to do that for ourselves and I have found it so necessary to have that help in order to tackle some of my bigger hurdles in grief and processing my loss. I really appreciate that Sabrina does this work and helps us along our own path in healing.
From personal experience, it is often very difficult to do that for ourselves and I have found it so necessary to have that help in order to tackle some of my bigger hurdles in grief and processing my loss. I really appreciate that Sabrina does this work and helps us along our own path in healing.
-Meggi
Ready to join us? Groups stating Sep. 2025
Limited spots (only 6 per group) to keep the circle intimate and warm
One payment of $799 (one payment) or $222/month (for 4 months)
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Join now and your 1-on-1 support begins TODAY
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After applying you will be taken to my scheduling calendar to book your "Circle Chat"