A space to grieve, stigma & judgement free

A space to remember, to honor our babies, wanted and loved 

In community, supported, together,
​creating rituals and honoring the rite of passage of parenthood interrupted.

But parenthood STILL. 



​Ready to join us? Pay in full at $397 or at $111/month through the buttons below:
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Next groups starting in
September 2024

Wednesday circles at 7pm Eastern 
starting Sep. 11th
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Thursday circles at Noon Eastern/ 5pm London time
starting Sep. 12th

This grief circle is a safe place
​for grieving parents after medical terminations



​After a termination of a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons, there is the real experience of being excluded from healing spaces.

Your grief may have been unwelcome even in your own faith tradition group - a place that could have afforded you the much needed community support that a "regular" miscarriage or stillbirth parent receives.

​You may even have been shunned in your secular communities and families of origin, or forced to keep it all a secret so as to not lose this support you desperately need. 
No matter anyone else's opinion on the matter, you deserve support during and after this type of baby loss.
This sacred TFMR grief circle run by me, Sabrina, The TFMR Pregnancy Loss Doula



​You deserve a place where your spirit and soul
can be taken care of, within the web of a group.
​Lifting each other up. Holding each other up.

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That's why I created:

Ascend - a 3-month virtual TFMR grief circle
NOW ENROLLING FOR September 2024
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 $397 (one time payment)

Ready to join us?:
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 $111 (four monthly payments)

Ready to join us?:

​“The healing power of even the most microscopic exchange with someone who knows in a flash precisely what you’re talking about because she experienced that thing too cannot be overestimated.”

-Cheryl Strayed





​Ascend is the grief circle for you if:

❣You are feeling the deep pull to share your grief experience, your story and your baby's story in a safe place 

❣You experienced a termination of a wanted pregnancy and are looking for a place to speak about and process the soul shattering changes it's brought about in your life

❣You are looking for a tight community experience, with other TFMR families

❣You wish to feel held and seen as the grieving parent you are, in a non-judgmental place

❣You are ready to do the grief work of integrating the loss and love that comes with this type of baby loss


​This grief circle is open to:


  • Women, trans, and non-binary people who have gone through a termination, whether for maternal or fetal health
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  • People who have been through a selective reduction in a mutliples pregnancy, you are welcome as well
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  • A specific situation, not listed here, that would be defined as ending a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. If you have any doubts, just contact me to see if this program would be right for you

Note:
Partners of any gender are welcome as well, although there will be a lot of talk about the somatic experience of carrying the child in our wombs, the deaths that occurred in and through our bodies, and the implications for our minds, bodies and souls in the aftermath.

The Details:


​Ascend: A Three Month TFMR Grief Circle
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Start date and opening ceremony - Sep. 11th OR Sep. 12th 2024  🌑



Meeting dates and times -
We will meet Wednesdays at 7pm EST, approximately every 2 weeks.
OR
We will meet on Thursdays at Noon EST, approximately every 2 weeks.




Choose the group that fits your schedule:

This program includes:
💜 Twice monthly LIVE meeting circles 
​(valued at $400)

These sacred circles will be held on Zoom.

A summary will be sent if you miss a circle.

In this space, we will gather to look deeply and hold each other through different subjects and aspects of the grief of this type of baby loss
💜A group Whatsapp chat (valued at $100/month)
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Where we can meet and share at any time, day or night, as we go through the circle ceremonies together.

I have some special surprises planned for the group which will include energy healing, tarot pulls and guided meditations. These gentle yet deep practices are great supplements alongside hard grief work. They can give a moment to rest and restore our exhausted bodies and minds.
​💜1-on-1 private support (valued at $199/month)
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You get written and/or voice messages with me, your pregnancy loss doula, during the course of the program.

This kind of messenger support gives you another layer of support beyond the group. A private place to be heard and seen in your grief. And your 1-on-1 support starts as soon as you enroll. Enroll early and you can get up to 2 weeks of extra 1-on-1 support for free.

The topics:
Each meeting will focus on one of the following themes 
💫 Death takes more than a life, how grief destroys our identity and how to begin to rebuild - The spiritual and philosophical identity shift
💫 A final decision - Peace and death, death and peace and our unique values around suffering
💫 Divine feminine energy and the womb wound - How our collective history, stories, myths and tales inform our grief. And the wisdom and validation we can glean from them
💫 The womb holder as decider and keeper of death and life - Reclaim your innate power
💫 Family and partner dynamics - why aren't you grieving like I am?
💫 Other children, other babies - dealing with the the tough emotions of pregnancy jealousy, living sibling grief, pregnancy after loss


​This whole program is valued at over $899, 
but I want to invite you in today for just $397 (one payment) or just $111  (4 monthly payments)

My TFMR and why I created this grief circle

Termination for medical reasons is NOT an uncommon type of pregnancy loss, but it sure feels like it is uncommon since many people chose to keep the experience private, secret, locked behind closed doors.

It's an experience that is rarely, if ever, talked about.

When I went through my termination, after a diagnosis of hydrops (hydrops fetalis), cystic hygroma and other anomalies, I was the first person I'd ever known to go through with ending a wanted pregnancy. I knew a few friends who had had very early abortions of unwanted and unplanned pregnancies, but my experience felt so different. Not "better" or more "ethical" or any of that bullshit, just different.

We had planned and wanted this baby. We named her Clara.

After my termination, which I learned was referred to as a TFMR (termination for medical reasons)
I needed, so desperately, to be in a group of other people who had been through THIS, specifically.

Terminating a WANTED pregnancy, making a lifetime worth of medical decisions for a fragile child
in a law-constricted "few days" worth of "decide now or your only option is to carry to term." 
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I did not feel safe going to a broad spectrum support group or "regular" loss mom retreat… I felt like I would have to check and double check that the leaders were ACTUALLY allies, that they would stop other members from looking me in the eye and saying, "I'd never…" Would they actually understand?

If this story sounds familiar, this space may be for you. Pre-vetted, safe for the grief of a TFMR parent. A place where you are understood.

Beyond a free support group, & more than a grief circle

This is so much more than a free support group (which I definitely recommend you join as well, I even run my own for our community) Ascend is a special sacred container for us to go deep into our shared experience of losing a child this way.

This grief circle is actually even more than a grief circle. It will be a ceremony, a ritual space (yes, it can be done virtually!), a sacred temporary coven. 




​We will look through the lens of myth, ritual, universal spirituality, what it means to mother, to parent, to hold life and death in our very bodies and wombs, to be the keepers and deciders of life. 

We come together because we know what it's like to fiercely parent our children, and give them peace. We come together because we deserve to bravely parent ourselves, and seek peace for ourselves as well. ​
"There is something powerful about speaking with people who have been through it"
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"A connection, a together-ness...I have made true friends there"

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"Eternally grateful to have had this space where I can just talk, out loud, about the things nobody else in my life want to listen to"
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FAQ

I'm currently Pregnant or actively TTC. Can I still Join?
This is a really great question, and I would say YES, in a pregnancy after loss or while trying to conceive, working through blocks and fears and learning how to be with our grief is so important. 

This is a gentle space, although we acknowledge the darkness and difficulties of grieving, just knowing you have a group and a community you can fall back on for emotional and spiritual support is priceless. Especially while navigating your fertility journey. 

If you become pregnant during the program, you may find that this group is the only place you are ready to open to about your early pregnancy. And that is a gift.
I am very much an introvert. Will I be put on the spot and forced to speak?
A resounding NO, I will never put you on the spot. You can share or not share, speak out or listen and be the sacred witness if you feel called to. I will also carefully watch the time and space and not allow it to be all about the more outgoing members. 

And this program comes with 1-on-1 access to me as your Pregnancy Loss Doula, so you can always send me your messages and questions privately. You can wait to speak up on a topic in our private space, which we will share over a texting and audio/video messaging app called Whatsapp. 

I Don't know much about Energy Work and Tarot and all that.  Will that even help me?
I infuse this program and my 1 on 1 work with energy healing like Reiki, and guided meditations and visualizations, and Tarot and Oracle card pulls and readings because what we need in all this is gentle, intuitive healing.

The death of a baby is a bombshell dropped on your life, and the grief that comes afterwards is chaotic, unrelenting. I want to invite these gentle healing modalities into the picture because we need to be held in this grief. 

Even if you don't "believe" (and that's fine!) and if all it does it relax you or gives you a bit of an aha moment, that is huge. 

I'M already in THERAPy. IS THIS Group therapy?
That is so wonderful that you have found a therapist that is working for you. That is a GIGANTIC win. And to answer your question, this grief circle is *not* psychotherapy, and it is *not* group therapy.

​I am a Pregnancy Loss Doula, and I'm here to create a sacred space for us to meet as bereaved TFMR parents. This is a circle, a meeting space, a place to be together in community. It's a combination of peer support and doula emotional and spiritual support.
My TFMR pregnancy Loss was many years ago. Should I still apply?
Yes, please apply! There is no expiration date on grief. And you may find yourself in need of help because another recent loss is bringing up your grief for your baby. Or maybe you are coming up on a hard milestone or grief "anniversary." Or perhaps you were never allowed to grieve due to family or your culturaI environment. I want you to know, I am here for you. Apply and we'll chat more to see if this group grief circle would be a good fit.

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“Grief is like living two lives...One where you pretend everything is all right and the other is where your heart silently screams in pain."

-Unknown

Meet your Loss Doula,  
Ritual Keeper and High Priestess 
A little more about me:
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Hi, I'm Sabrina Fletcher, loss doula.

Ever since I went through my own termination, alone, my husband relegated to the waiting area, I've been drawn to help people going through the TFMR experience. One way I can help is by being your Pregnancy Loss Doula.

Because of clinic and hospital policies, there may not much in-person hand holding during procedures allowed, and most people find me after they have gone through with their terminations.

The postpartum period and beyond is when we still need much care and help. With or without a baby on this plane, we are still postpartum parents. It is still a rite of passage that deserves to be marked and celebrated and honored.

As a loss doula, I combine my skills as a Reiki teacher, intuitive healer, tarot reader, contemplative educator and training as a baby loss family advisor into a holistic bundle of emotional and spiritual care. For you, the grieving mumma, papa, parent.

Ja'Nai shares her experience in Ascend:

"I felt parts of my heart that I thought were cold...I could feel them again.
(Ascend) is truly a place where you can find community. 
I found ways that I could take steps forward."
-Ja'Nai, TFMR mom
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​What others are saying:
This group helped me to not drown in the things I needed to air out. There's no other emotional space like that.

I think it was a loving space because everyone listened to me with patience and I really appreciate that.​

-Sol

I feel relieved to be able to count on having this space, where I can slow down for a few moments and listen and be listened to.

Where I can learn about my own experiences and those of my fellow members...for me it's a huge gift. A gift I constantly need to remind myself that I too deserve.​

-Diana


​Ready to join us? We are starting in September 2024


Only 5 spots per group 


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